Romance in Polyamory


Romantic Moments in Polyamory


Image Text: tweeted once that I thought polyamory was unromantic and upon further consideration I think what I mean is: if you really love someone, I don't understand why you wouldn't want to witness them every moment you could

Here is a non-exhaustive list of moments that I find deeply open-hearted romantic that are more common in polyamory:

These are just small romantic moments! This is not a "why people practice polyamory" or even "what love means to people who practice polyamory vs monogamy".

Those are much bigger questions, and I bet monogamy/polyamory tend to have a lot in common with each other in those domains (a monogamous person reads your think-piece and yells on their hill, "I care about my friends! Meaningfully! I care about them so, so much." A polyamorous person looks out at your tweet-thread from the vantage of their 10+ year relationship to their spouse and gives a deep sigh).

I bet it comes down to more how an individual person practices love than general trends in the orientation themselves. I do have quite a few thoughtful friends in both romantic orientations, so it might be an interesting question to approach one day. What are actual philosophical differences in how the groups practice love?